The question looms in my debut novel (titled to be announced later) about my main character’s self-worth. She suffered many storms including years of domestic abuse—and when that chapter of her life had ended—she moved on but did the suffering as battered woman define her? The brutal beatings, the name calling, and the unwanted forced desire upon her spouse all left a burden in her heart for years. My character’s psyche—unknowingly—allowed one person’s act to define of who and what she was. And unfortunately, there are millions of women like her.
I won’t get into the details if my character’s strength has
helped overcome her demons—you just have wait this summer until the release of
my book. However, there are women you may know, or it could be you, or it could
be me that has allowed our pain to define us.
Beauty is more than just wearing short dresses, Mac
products, and Maybelline—beauty is an inner glow that shine of our confidence.
It’s the ingredient that brews our self worth. We know we deserved to be loved
and yet choose to stay in questionable relationships. Or become bitter from
heartbreak because our pain is too great to love again.
Love is not supposed to hurt you, or strip you from your
true self. Love is not meant to be used as a weapon for guilt and shame. Love shouldn't be used as rage, or inflate one’s person ego while leaving another in
tears.
In essence, self worth doesn't discriminate. There are men
that walk with prominent scars of abuse. Their invisible tears hide behind their
pain, confusion, and guilt from their childhood, or suffered heartbreak from a
woman’s bitterness all because she would rather hurt them before she’d get
hurt. It’s a mere reciprocation of pain.
In a blog I wrote years ago about bitterness, anger, and
pity—and how it would lead to heartache and pain. I've taken this quote from
the text because it rings so true: We are
KINGS and QUEENS of our destiny; the Authors
of our own story, and the Painters of our canvasses. We can fight it, we can do
it, and we can be it!
Courtesy: Put A Wedge In It (Katrina Gurl, Inc). This blog is a must follow!
